Good Intentions, Wrong Moves
A weekly newsletter for new sales managers, aspiring leaders, and executives responsible for sales.
This week’s issue is meant to be a little uncomfortable.
Not because there’s anything wrong with you — but because the mistakes I’m going to walk through are nearly universal among new sales managers, and the only way to stop making them is to first recognize them clearly.
Here’s the thing about these mistakes: almost none of them come from laziness or indifference. They come from good instincts. The same instincts that made you effective as a rep — the urgency, the ownership, the desire to get things done — don’t disappear when your title changes. They just need a new outlet. And until you find that outlet, they keep showing up in the wrong places.
Let’s name them.
Mistake 1: Rescuing Deals
You already know this one if you’ve been reading the series — but it’s worth spelling out the full cost.
When you jump into a deal and take over, you solve the immediate problem. The rep gets relief. The deal moves. Everyone feels better for about forty-eight hours.
Here’s what you also did: you taught your rep that the way to handle difficulty is to wait for you. Not to work through it, not to think harder, not to develop the skills to solve it themselves — just to surface it to you at the right moment.
Do that once and it’s a natural response to a tough situation. Do it consistently and you’ve trained your team to be dependent.
The trap is that it never feels like the wrong move in the moment. It always feels like helping. What you’re actually doing is outsourcing your rep’s development back to yourself — and you’ll keep paying that cost in every deal, every quarter, until you stop.
The discipline isn’t to stay out of deals. It’s to stay in them differently — asking questions instead of providing answers, coaching toward a decision rather than making the decision for them.
Mistake 2: Confusing Busyness With Leadership
New sales managers are often very, very busy. And that busyness can quietly become a form of avoidance.
When the calendar is full and the messages are flowing and the day ends exhausted, it’s easy to feel like you’ve been managing effectively. The motion was real. The effort was genuine. Surely that’s what the job looks like.
Not necessarily.
Management is measured in outputs, not activity. If your reps aren’t improving, if your pipeline isn’t healthier, if the process isn’t more consistently executed — then all that motion didn’t produce what it needed to.
The more important question is: what are you busy with? Is the work you’re filling your days with actually developing your people, improving your pipeline quality, and reinforcing execution standards? Or are you staying in the comfortable zone — the deals you understand, the conversations that feel productive, the tasks you’re good at — while the harder work of building a team keeps getting deferred?
Busy is a feeling. Leadership is a result.
Mistake 3: Avoiding Accountability
This is the mistake that looks the kindest in the moment and does the most damage over time.
The feedback gets softened. The standard gets quietly lowered. The conversation that should happen on Tuesday gets pushed to next week, and then the week after that.
Most managers who do this are not being cowardly. They’re trying to protect a relationship, or they’re not sure the rep is ready to hear it, or they genuinely believe things will improve on their own.
But here’s what’s happening while they wait.
The rep who needs honest feedback doesn’t know where they stand. They have no clear picture of the gap between their current performance and what’s expected. When the consequences eventually arrive — a performance plan, a missed promotion, a harder conversation they didn’t see coming — it will feel sudden and unfair. Because from their perspective, nobody told them.
Meanwhile, the rest of the team is watching. They see that standards are flexible. They see that underperformance has a comfortable runway. Some will take advantage of it. Others will quietly lose respect for the environment.
Accountability isn’t unkind. The absence of it is. Clear expectations and honest feedback are what actually set people up to succeed — not the softened version that protects the manager’s comfort.
Mistake 4: Running Meetings Without Purpose
Every meeting you run is a leadership statement.
A meeting that has a clear purpose, a structure people can prepare for, and a reason every person in the room needed to be there says: I’ve thought about this, I respect your time, and I expect you to show up ready.
A meeting that meanders, that covers the same ground every week with no clear outcome, that could easily have been an email — that says something else. It says the manager hasn’t thought hard enough about why they called people together.
Bad meetings don’t just waste time. They teach teams that the manager’s time and their time aren’t particularly valuable. Over time, people stop preparing. They stop engaging. They start waiting for it to end.
Meetings are one of your highest-leverage tools as a manager. Used well, they build momentum, share context, develop your team, and set standards. Used poorly, they’re the thing your team dreads on Monday morning.
The difference is intention. Before you schedule the next one, answer: what specifically should someone know or be able to do after this meeting that they couldn’t before?
If you don’t have a crisp answer, you’re not ready to run it yet.
Mistake 5: Managing Off Gut Feel Instead of Evidence
Strong salespeople have good instincts. That’s part of what made them effective.
When they become managers, those instincts often get applied to the team — and the results are mixed.
The rep who seems energetic and confident must be on track. The deal that’s been in stage three for sixty days must be progressing because the rep’s tone in the update was positive. The team’s morale feels okay, so things are probably fine.
Sometimes those instincts are right. The problem is that “probably fine” isn’t a management standard.
Managing off gut feel means you’re reacting to surface signals rather than inspecting what’s actually underneath them. The problems you catch are the ones that are urgent or obvious. The slow leaks — the rep who’s falling behind on a skill, the deal that’s stalling because discovery was shallow, the accountability gap that’s accumulating quietly — those don’t surface until they’re no longer slow.
Good instincts are a starting point. Evidence is what protects you when your instincts are wrong. Inspect the pipeline. Look at what the data is telling you. Ask the questions that don’t have comfortable answers.
Your gut is useful. Your discipline is what makes it reliable.
A Word for Executives and Leaders
If you have a new sales manager making one or more of these mistakes, I want to offer you something direct:
Name it early. Don’t wait for the pattern to become a performance problem before you address it.
Most new managers are not aware they’re doing these things. They haven’t been given the feedback, the framework, or the perspective to see the pattern from the outside. A direct conversation — early, without judgment, focused on development — is almost always more useful than watching someone struggle toward a lesson they could have been handed.
“I’ve noticed you tend to get involved in deals at the rescue stage — let’s talk about what that might be costing you” is a gift. Waiting for the year-end review is not.
The earlier you give the feedback, the easier the correction. The longer you wait, the more entrenched the pattern becomes.
Where to Start This Week
Pick one.
Of the five mistakes above, choose the one you’re most vulnerable to right now — not the one that sounds the worst, but the one that honestly resonates when you think about your last few weeks.
Then identify one specific situation coming up this week where you can do it differently.
Just one. That’s enough to start.
See you next week.
— Mike
Mike Dowhan is the founder of Bedrock Sales Strategy. He helps B2B companies build the strategy, infrastructure, and sales leadership behind sustainable and predictable revenue. If your organization is dealing with stalled growth, inconsistent performance, or a sales team that lacks the leadership structure to succeed — that’s exactly the kind of problem he works on.
Connect with Mike on LinkedIn or visit bedrocksales.com.
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